How to Ride a Man

Being on top during intimacy is often about connection, control, and communication, not performance.

Here’s a healthy way to think about it:

1. Start with consent and communication

Before anything physical, make sure both of you are comfortable and on the same page. A simple check-in builds trust and makes the experience better for both people.

2. Focus on comfort and balance

Position yourself in a way that feels natural and relaxed. Your knees, thighs, or feet should support you comfortably so you’re not straining. If something feels awkward or painful, adjust.

3. Go at your own pace

There’s no “right” speed or rhythm. Slow movements help you stay aware of how your body feels and how your partner responds. Let things build naturally rather than rushing.

4. Use your whole body, not just movement

Eye contact, touch, posture, and closeness matter just as much as motion. Sitting upright, leaning forward, or staying close can all create different emotional connections.

5. Listen to your body

If you feel tired, uncomfortable, or unsure, pause or change positions. Intimacy should never feel like a chore or competition.

6. Confidence matters more than technique

Feeling confident, present, and relaxed often matters more than “doing it perfectly.” Confidence comes from being comfortable with yourself, not copying what you’ve seen or heard.

7. Aftercare and connection

Checking in afterward—talking, cuddling, or simply being close—strengthens emotional intimacy and makes the experience feel safe and valued.

Being on top is about mutual enjoyment, comfort, and communication, not pressure or performance. When both partners feel safe and respected, intimacy becomes more meaningful.